I felt so sorry for this mom. I had seen her from time to time picking up her daughter, but didn't know her well enough to offer any kind of support. Possibly, she was mortified on the inside, but my impression is the scenario was typical for her, and in such cases we can become numb to how bad we look to others. Maybe she feels powerless to expect anything different from her daughter, but she is ignoring her greatest asset. There is no way I would be shelling out all of those dollars to the dance school and carting my daughter back and forth if my welcome was not sure.
If we don't demand appreciation and respect from our children, what other authority will they honor?