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Have you lost your curl defining mind?

Have you been wanting to ask me...What is really going on with this curl definition craze of videos on your channel?  I thought you loved nappy hair?! This is really new for you!

Not really.

I really love nappy hair, and where there are no curls I am perfectly fine with it. Chunky fro for life!

I really love my fro just the way it is, but doesn't the versatility of our natural hair still blow your mind?  Even after years of making discoveries, I am still amazed by what our hair can do!

My hair looked a hot mess at longer lengths while employing the exact same methods I have used to define my tapered fro.  Can I call my TWA a tapered fro now?  Do I have enough length?

Maybe my hair still looks a hot mess.  What do you think?  You can tell me as long as you keep it respectful.  Real person with real feelings alert!  I like it, though I am still tweaking things.

I have always chalked up my disappointing curl definition experiments of the past, to the different textures on my head.  While the back area is still clearly different from the front, I think the tapered sides and nape balance the textures more.  This is my best guess for why I can live with the results I am getting now whereas I gave up when my hair was longer.  What do you think?

Lately I have been enjoying defining creams more than gels.  There is a video coming out soon where I try Eco Styler on my TWA for the first time.  I am a child of the 80's and 90's and am forever traumatized by the memory of the Jheri Curl.  Sorry.

I am late to the party, but let's go!  I will be trying many new things. I hope you enjoy my experiments as much as I do.  One thing I will always stay committed to is guarding the health of my hair.  Gotta have hair to play this game!

Nappy hair.  Where you can have you cake and eat it too.  Loving it!


  1. I love it, love it, love it!! Those curls are just beautiful! Hair products change as the hair grows. Recently got into the old discussion of "good hair vs. bad hair" (so tired of this description) and I wish that I thought to say how "versatile" natural hair is. My daughter loves her hair and I don't want anybody telling her that she has "bad hair"!

  2. Thank you so much! I also hate the good hair talk even when people think they are giving a compliment. I am so glad you commented. I have been wondering where everyone is.


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