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HMG Re-twists Like a Pro!

Here's an update on the video Am I am rushing my daughter to do her own hair too fast?

On the ride home from a trip to visit relatives, HMG shared her frustration living with fuzzy twists. I pointed out to her that if she re-twists herself, she can keep her twists as fresh as she likes. She's been practicing her twist technique on her nappy American Girl doll. I encouraged her to try re-twisting one of her twists as we sat talking on the drive. Her first attempt was too loose BUT after a few simple suggestions she refashioned the twist perfectly. We had no water and no products. I pointed out that we generally want to use both and finger detangle to remove shed hair. We had at least 3 hours left of our journey home and HMG managed to re-twist her entire head before we arrived.

She complained about how long it took, but now she knows she can re-twist her own hair whenever she likes. This is the first step to independence--I couldn't be happier for her. I will continue to put in her fresh set of twists until she is comfortable with doing the entire process herself.

Pipe Cleaner Curls
A week after re-twisting her hair AND swimming, HMG was complaining about the fuzz again. I handed her a set of pipe cleaner rods the younger Mocha Girls and I had fashioned. This morning she came into my office wanting to know how long she can expect her curls to last. She LOVED the way they refreshed her twists. Now she's got TWO tools in her arsenal for stretching the life of her twists in a way she enjoys.

I am so happy with HMG's progress. I think my hair story would have been so much easier if I could have made peace with my nappy hair at age 11.

Comments

  1. Wow, she did a great job on those twists! You're obviously doing a great job training her. :-)

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  2. It is challenging at times. My stepdaughter is the same age and I am trying to teach her how to do little things with her hair. I know it is going to take time and patience.
    Your daughter did a great job!

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