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Homeschool Expectations vs Reality (Parents)



Hopefully this video doesn't sound like a rant that makes you want to forget all of your rosy expectations about homeschooling.  Personally, I really appreciate real talk because challenges come to everyone.  Learning is all about trying things, making mistakes, and growing as you push your way through.



I am so glad we decided to start this adventure nearly two decades ago.  It has been challenging enough at times to bring me to tears, but the benefits are greater than I imagined.  I started out looking for the most perfect way to train up my kids, and discovered an imperfect situation with endless possibilities.  My best advice to my younger self would be to just let it happen and stop worrying.  My advice to myself today is to enjoy the imperfection of it all, and thank God I'm not the head honcho in charge!

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  1. I'm in my first year of homeschooling 2 of our kiddos. Their "testing" will happen soon. I often find myself worrying about what will happen if there are gaps discovered. It was good for me to hear that gaps will happen and it's okay.

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  2. I have had to change the purpose of testing in my mind. Before I considered the testing to be an indication of whether or not I was doing a good job. I now view it as a tool to show me what we need to work on or what may have been missed. When I discover gaps, they become something I need to address next go around. Assuming we have been diligently working hard, and the child is not generally grossly behind, gaps happen no matter how they are being educated. Whether at home, public or private school, gaps can happen.

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