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Mom, are you taking care of YOURself?

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  1. I just wanted to comment here since I can't on youtube. I think this is an issue that speaks to the majority of moms- I will stand up first too! What really resonated was when you said
    "spiritual skeleton". When I do not let my spirit drink of God, that really is what I am. I also that the taking care of self/putting self first is truly different from a selfish intent to be first, or have my needs above everyone else's. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE. I have to take care of me so I can complete what God has given me to do. Thank you for taking time to share with us!

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    1. Thank you so much for pointing out the difference. We have to get through this issue as mom so we can really be good moms.

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  2. I loved this! Thank you! I am pregnant with baby number 1 (a girl) due in a couple of weeks and have been thinking heavily about what I need to do and should have done pre-pregnancy to make sure that I was in the best shape possible - mentally, spiritually, and physically to be the best Mom that I could be.

    I've read all of the best parenting books, subscribed to all of the best parenting blogs and websites, and taken into account all of the advice that people have shared regarding raising children, but I never (1) lost those last few pounds for optimal health pre-pregnancy, started my home business that would keep me afloat after leaving work FT to be a SAHM, or found what would keep me interested and happy as an extra-curricular (a hobby or craft). It was all about the baby. Now that I have stopped working, it is all about the hubby (until she gets here). He's grinning like a Cheshire cat at the attention he's getting, but in these last few weeks of pregnancy, I'm starting to get that overwhelming sense of "what about me" - hence the emotional breakdown that I had yesterday. ;) I've worked for 9 months to be Super Mom and Super Wife. Prior to, I wanted to be a better version of me. I got off track for that goal...

    You reminded me and I know it AINT too late. Thank you.

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  3. Good for you! But remember this...you are dealing with pregnancy hormones right now. Melt downs are to be expected, so don't take yourself too seriously until about 4 months AFTER you have the baby. Seriously...:-) Thanks for taking time to share your story. I appreciate your support.

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  4. Thanks for this. I am starting to feel like I'm drowning. I have six children and am feeling very unworthy to have all these wonderful children. I know I'm not doing a great job. I am far below my own expectations and have begun to feel like I should not have had so many. Personally, I have always struggled with being organised and as much as I try, I don't make any real improvement. I stay up very late every night, I don't get near enough sleep, school reports are overdue (we homeschool) and my husband is frustrated because of my disorganisation and how that effects everything. So often I try to make so many changes at once but get overwhelmed and end up back were I started. How can I prioritise the changes I need to make in order to make lasting changes?

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  5. I feel like this sometimes. I always trace it back when I decided to put everything on my back all by myself without God. God was for emergencies. I don't have this feeling when I invite God in every step of the way. he helps me organize and focus and realize what things are necessary and what things are a good idea but not His plan.

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