I'll never forget the first time I saw Mocha Girl One (HmG) . She was an emergency c-section, and had to spend several days in NICU. She was born four days past her estimated due date and looked huge in her incubator. I imagined her to be especially delicate and feminine. I couldn't wait to frill her up, and more importantly to do her hair ! The only reason she wasn't sporting a barrette the day we took her home from the hospital, was because the one I brought to match her lacey outfit, slid right out. Mocha Girl One's baby hair was silky straight and fine. As the weeks rolled by, it became wavier until she had a lovely curly fro. I washed it all the time . I brushed it several times a day . I tried snap clips, and moved to velcro barrets when the clips slid out. I bought a different head band for every outfit. Meanwhile her curls continued to wind tighter and tighter. I kept everything in a pretty box, dubbed the hair bin . I was really frustrated at not b...
Growing in treasuring my girls, and sharing what I am learning along the way.
I love how real you are and how you put family first!! Bless you!
ReplyDeleteOh my word. I so needed this today. Thanks for sharing. I don't have 4 girls, but I have 4 kids and I often feel like I am trying to do hair again because of pride. I struggle because I don't want to be that white mom that doesn't take care of her kids' hair. Isn't that awful? I need to remind myself I AM TAKING CARE OF THEM!!! Even though it isn't always fuzz free, it's healthy hair. I want my kids to be proud of their hair and that their mama knows how to do their hair. AH!! Struggle. Thanks for sharing this. I love your heart!
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Thanks Char!
ReplyDeleteYou're welcome Molly. Thanks for sharing your struggle--sounds like you're moving in the right direction. It's even harder to move forward with the weight of other people's expectations.
I laughed out loud when you talked about washing their hair in the style to preserve the parts! I do that all the time. I am an adoptive mother of two african american girls and it has been a learning experience for me. I consider them to have very healthy hair but it is seldom fuzz free! It's all I can do sometimes to keep up with two heads! I save time wherever I can.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for all of your posts. I have learned lots from you!
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