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Confessions of a Busy Mocha Mom


I confess that I haven't done the girls' hair over yet, because they are going swimming this weekend.

I confess that I may be getting too comfortable with fuzz, and frizz, and almost never think twice about our hair when we leave the house.

I confess that I'm glad I can't guarantee the gender of my kids, or I'd only be enjoying one mocha girl right now and I love them all so much.

I confess that I don't always feel up to the task and am glad that God doesn't require that I never stumble, but is grooming me to position myself to let him catch me when I fall.

I confess that it's not easy teaching my babies lessons I haven't fully learned myself--thank God I'm not doing any of this in my own strength.


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  1. mom, u r a wonder mommy...to raise up 5 kids is a gr8 job, and indeed its not ur strenght, but the Lords doing. If we all mums have to make confessions like urs...hmmm...so i just want to give u tumbs up and say that u r a super mama!!!!! By the way i love ur hairrrrrrrr!

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  2. "I confess that it's not easy teaching my babies lessons I haven't fully learned myself--thank God I'm not doing any of this in my own strength." I so relate! :-)

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