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I'm learning more and more that what my girls want from me the most is my time. In the past I've been stunted by trying to plan the perfect event. Either I didn't have the resources or imagined the more stuff I could offer my girls the better. I'm learning that doing something cheap, simple, and fun often results in some of the most precious memories.

My husband and son traveled for a father son camp experience, leaving us behind. The girls were looking to me for a special time at home, but I was exhausted from starting our homeschool, and the demands of chasing a baby on the brink of walking while trying to be available for quality individual interaction with four other children. My husband is very supportive, but my responsibilities demand a lot both physically and emotionally.

I tend to fake it it til I make it. We watched videos. Turned errands into a fun window shopping trip. Made french bread pizza. Worshipped together. All these things were fun, but the gem of the weekend happened spontaneously.

MG3 wanted to play make up. I had the girls wait for me in the kitchen while I rushed upstairs to clean things up in the master bathroom. My initial thought was to baby proof the floor space so that MB could crawl around. As I look around I noticed the unlit candles and a white folded gauzy floor length curtain. I decided right then to use what I had on hand to turn my bathroom into a Nappy Princess Spa. I lit the candles, put on some sweet music, and covered a chair from my son's room with the guazy curtain and secured it all with a silky scarf. I spread make-up and nail polish all around the counter. The girls gasped and squealed with glee when I finally brought them in.

I've been teaching my girls to relax about their appearance, and not to let a fear of messing up their hair prevent them from having fun. This is an important message, but I want to make sure my girls balance this relaxed attitude by knowing when to celebrate their femininity and glam it up! I'm no expert, but we sure had fun packing on the pretty colors and giggling. We took lots of pictures. The end result was silly, but I'm sure we'll smile every time we look at those shots.


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  1. Looks like you all had fun! The look too cute all glamed up.

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  2. That is awesome! What a great idea. :) Thanks for sharing. Your girls are gorgeous.

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  3. They all seemed to have a ball......I understand what you mean about our girls desire to spend time with us. Like you, with all the daily responsibilities it can be a challenge to fit those moments in on a regular basis. Thanks for sharing!!!!

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  4. It sounds lovely. I may just have to try that. Thanks for the idea. :-)

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  5. Lisa-blessed2fosteradoptSeptember 23, 2010 at 10:53 AM

    I just found your blog. Love it! Your girls are gorgeous and blessed. You are a great mother. Thanks for sharing them and their beautiful hair. My nappy princess and I thank you.

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