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Oh No, My Daughter is Doing Her Own Hair!

I always imagined I would really enjoy watching my daughters do their own hair.  In my dreams they ALWAYS followed my methods step by step in exactly the way they had seen me do.  They are super gentle--I mean why destroy all of the progress we had worked so hard to make?  No one ever complains about the hard work and depending on the style of choice--the long hours it takes to finish.  After all, my daughters are super evolved because of all the things I've have poured into them.   My girls loved every step of the process and never considered rolling with whatever their hair was bent on doing naturally.  At the very least, they never had to be reminded to do the basics--like wash their hair.  They never let weeks, and then more than a month go by without at least rinsing the sweat from their scalps.

I could laugh for days because with both HmG and Mg2 being completely responsible for their own hair I am realizing how absolutely ridiculous my expectations were.

They have their own process to make.

They don't get excited about the things that excite me.

What I think is amazing, is at times considered a hot mess by them.

Maybe when they grow up they will, but right now they don't care about all of the hard work I have painstakingly put into their hair.  To them, it's just hair and they are not sure how they feel about it sometimes.  Sometimes they don't care or don't want to be bothered.  Other times they just hate it.  Not necessarily because it's nappy or they wish they had some other kind of hair...but just because....

I am learning how to keep my mouth shut.  My daily mantra is...you may not be thrilled but it is still their hair.

I'm not going to lie.  It's hard.

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