Saturday, December 25, 2010

Merry Christmas!

Wishing you a fuzzy wuzzy, nappy loving special day! Make some connections that matter, and notice every moment.

I DID finally get to do some hair...=) Mocha Baby is still being trained.....brushing is good for loose hair only...!

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Christmas Card 2010 Photo Shoot!

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Nappy Christmas Greetings!

Our relationship with nappy hair and fuzz can affect everything--even organizing the kids to take a picture in time to send out Christmas cards to our loved ones. I confess, I really struggled this year.

There's nothing wrong with wanting everyone to look their best, and a fresh style is beautiful. My problem is I've been swamped with seasonal activity. I've had no time to calmly sit and lovingly do hair. I certainly could have ripped through their strands to get the job done, but it just wasn't worth it to me. I don't believe in suffering to be beautiful.

I finally realized the cards would never go out if I waited for the day I could freshen up all the girls' styles--especially when a wash is necessary for them all.

One morning I woke up and noticed that my son was wearing red and white. A few minutes later MG3 came down the stairs in a red shirt. Her hair was fuzzy wuzzy to the max, but I knew right then that I needed to seize the moment. I rushed upstairs with Mocha Baby and dressed her in the gorgeous Christmas dress my mother bought her. HMG joined in the fun accessorizing to match everyone. A fifteen minute photo shoot ensued and voila! Christmas cards!

I realize that when I send out my cards, some people may say, "This picture would have been perfect if she had done something with the girls' hair!"

I'm OK with that, because I know this image is a better reflection of who we are and what we cherish. It is more important to be able to reach out to our loved ones, without letting things like fuzz, frizz and naps be a hindrance. I also appreciate the opportunity to give my girls another experience where their nappyness wasn't even a thought. I had plenty of thoughts running through my mind, but they'll never know it.

Merry Christmas!

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Building Relationship With Your Daughters

I know I usually come here to talk about hair, but my heart is so full right now I can't help but share. I had the most wonderful couple of hours with HMG. She's physically changing before my eyes. More and more I see the little girl fading away and the young woman emerging. She's still my little girl, but every now and then I catch a glimpse of who she's becoming. Sometimes I'm a little intimidated by the new demands her growth process are placing on me. I want to run back to story time and let me kiss that boo-boo for you and make it all better. These days HMG is navigating her way through so many issues, and sometimes when she comes to me I am humbled by the realization that I haven't mastered the situation yet myself. How do I lead her through? Inside I'm quaking. What if I make a mess of things? At times I've been afraid to be alone with her in these tough places. Today I took a leap.

I decided I would rather fumble if it means taking my chance to really know my daughter and to let her know me. For a couple of hours I decided to step outside my busy-ness, turn over the rest of the kids to their father and head to Dunkin Donuts with my oldest Mocha Princess. For five dollars and change I found myself to be so blessed by her animated conversation. It's like she was finally able to say all she'd been wanting to say and I was finally listening. I wasn't struck with the perfect answers, but I finally realized she just needed me there. Something about me--imperfections and all--was all she needed.

When I blog--making sure my wording and presentation is perfect, and when I edit my videos-- making sure not to include my moments of frustration, I realize it may come across like things are holding together really well all of the time. The truth is there muck in us all--I am so grateful that I don't have to be perfect to accomplish something good. I hope all of you out there are taking the time now to make authentic connections with your daughters. I'm realizing that God has purposed it so that especially my broken places--which tend to make me pull away-- are useful to share with them.