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Styling for Worship on Easter!

Special occasions stressed me out when I was trying to conform our nappy hair to styles better suited for straight hair. No more! It's amazing how many gorgeous styles we can achieve by following our nappy hair's natural tendencies.

I thought my daughters were especially lovely today. We were having so much fun, we didn't start taking pictures until after they had removed their dresses but their hair held up really well.

Twists are so wonderful for girls. We kept the twists in for nearly three weeks. This morning I slicked my hands with grapeseed oil(any oil your daughter's hair likes is fine) and gently pulled apart their twists. My four year old is wearing a braid out. I no longer twist her hair long term because her hair mattes up quickly in twists. I followed the same method of slicking my fingers with oil to coax apart her strands. In some areas I used the tail end of a rat tail comb.

To preserve this style at night, I either gather my daughters' hair into a bun or high ponytail and cover with a satin/silky wrap or cap. I allow them to shower with their bare heads, but make sure the ponytail ends are wrapped around in a bun--this discourages shrinkage. Once the bun is dry, we take it down and arrange the hair however the girls like. For Sunday worship we simply added clips to match the girls' dresses.


  1. Agreed, twists can be styled in soooo many different ways and really go offer a great deal of variety. Natural hair in itself is so versatile. I try to have fun with mine no matter what length/stage it's at but I must admit it's not always easy.

  2. I watched your videos about washing on You tube...Not sure if you answered this question, but how often do you wash the girls hair. The girls hair is gorgeous!

  3. Thanks!Check out my video response about how often I wash.

  4. This weekend was THE BEST washing experience of my 6 and 9 year old Nappy Princesses lives. We shampooed and conditioned and detangled (not one tear!) and styled. I even made the shea butter mix!! Still on the hunt for a good brush to detangle with - today I used a wide tooth comb!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

  5. Hello, a FB friend brought your blog to my attention. I absolutely love it! Your children are beautiful and their hair is gorgeous!


  6. Oh I'm so glad for you and your nappy princesses! That's what this is all about! I wish you could see the big grin on my face!

    Thank you Nik! Welcome!

  7. Your daughters have beautiful hair.


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